OB is at the age where we need to decide how to discipline him. Although it will start small, we need a framework for how we will deal with discipline issues in the future as they arise.
We want to display God and justice through our discipline and rules and obeying.
He knows (at 9 months) already when he does the wrong thing there are consequences (has been reaching out to touch the heater whilst looking at me and smiling). So I say "no" and give him a smack, hard enough to make him know it's unpleasant. I am amazed at how fast he is picking up on this.
Learning "no" means there are consequences to behaviours. It's hard to know what he can understand....but that's a message we want to pass on...
The aim for further discipline:
Controlled smacking. Talking through the choices OB makes that lead to the smack. Giving him the smack. Look him in the eyes, give him a cuddle and say im not mad anymore.
We want to make sure we teach him the seriousness of doing the wrong thing, consequences, mercy, the nature of God and resolving issues.
Somehow we want to pass on the model of God disciplining us (and his anger when bad things are done) but with an unending love and forgiveness.
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